A good article, Katharina. Setting boundaries is a must with people who doesn't see our values and keep crushing unto them. In this way, we have peace within which they can never take away from us! I agree with you, people with insecurities often have the patterns of trying to dominate others!
Excellent quotes, Katharina. Particularly resonated with that Orwell section. "Obedience is not enough. Power is inflicting pain and humiliation."
You'll never win by making yourself smaller so that another becomes larger. They'll move to crush you. It's so for individuals and in the affairs of nations.
Avoid situations you need to fight, but if you cannot, then fight to win or die trying.
Patrick, thank you so much for commenting! I really admire how you find the time and I feel bad for currently only managing to post instead of to post and to engage with other writers. Your wisdom and your ability to put your excellent thoughts into words are really unmatched. Everytime I read a note from you, I’m just in awe! Long story short: I really appreciate you, thank you so much - and I agree with your comment 100%! 🤍
Welcome, Katharina, and thank you very much. About not being able to engage, I think we all understand. Sometimes we're just too busy with other things. It's okay. Those who understand won't ask, those who make a big deal of it aren't the right audience anyway. Besides, I see you try a lot, even when you don't have the time. So, no worries, don't feel bad about it.
Katharina, This is an exceptionally exceptional post! And you lay it out so well, too. I can't even decide which one I most like! Thank you so much for this article. It really resonated. I also just finished a book that in the final lines, the protagonist asks a police detective why the 'villain' would do something that did not quite compute--like a red herring. His response was, "Sometimes people just like to f*&% with you a little bit more. Some people, they never want to lose an opportunity to f*&$ with you, just for the sake of it." That explained a lot to me, basically some people just like to 'stir the pot' to get people going, and those people, believe me, I want to avoid. The ones who want to do it, just for the sake of it. GREAT Post!!!! Thank you!
Omg Jeanine! I hate those people the most as well… My brain just can’t really understand why someone would deliberately trigger others, like… why. One must feel really down inside to do this, but yes, I’ve encountered many people like this as well. I think in the end through their behavior they are just sabotaging themselves in the end. ☹️ Thank you so much for the addition and great explanation!
thank you for sharing these! I also recently accepted that people who keep pushing your boundaries are not respecting you and don't deserve a spot in your life.
Love these! I feel like it’s especially important for people who struggle with people pleasing or fawning behavior. Some people don’t realize they let people overstep boundaries repeatedly ‘cause of trauma responses. If you notice it’s a pattern there’s definitely an opportunity for discovery there.
Your words really resonate with me, Ericka! Thank you so much! 🤍🤍 I was exactly this girl 10 years ago who tried to overcome trauma and I was so blind to people's disrespect - I just did not recognize it. Quotes like these helped to open my eyes, therefore I wanted to share so that others needing to overcome similar challenges can benefit just as I could a decade ago.
What you're saying is so important, especially for young women. We're so conditioned to blame ourselves instead of noticing red flags, and then distancing before there's anything to blame ourselves for.
Now that I'm older, my boundaries are much better, but young women often lack self-esteem and self-confidence, and that can really get us women into trouble.
Your comment really resonated with me on a deep level, dear Diana - I was exactly that young woman that you so well describe in your last sentence. Back then, I was craving for resources online to help me navigate life and to make sense of the disrespect I was so often experiencing. I really appreciate you and your comment - You hit the nail on its head! 👏
Lovely post Katharina. I haven’t read any of those books but they do seem like they have a lot to offer. Thank you for summarising the salient points and bringing them altogether.
I hope you’re enjoying a lovely relaxing break and feeling refreshed!
Katharina. Here in England we have a government locking up people for writing on social media, locking up people for speaking out against government policies. In America we have a woman who is going to destroy the country and the free world.
Is my writing toxic?
Will it destroy your boundaries?
Am I trying to disrespect you?
Katharina, I'm an old man in his seventies. I have but a short time left so I don't care if I upset a man or woman on Substack or in government. I care about the freedoms that I had that you've already lost. I care about my children and grandchildren and the hellhole they have coming.
You write well.
That writing can go two ways. It can be writing for pleasure, profit even. Or it can be writing to wake up the f+ING people around the world who are sleep walking into self imposed gulags.I do thank you for liking my comments Katharina because the way things are in England I may be writing my next piece from a cell
This is a fantastic article Katharina. So very well written. I have great great difficulty setting boundaries. I am a people pleaser with an anxious attachment. Red flags could be waving in my face and I’d say no they are pink flags. I have been working hard on myself and I found this article so helpful. Thank you for sharing x
A good article, Katharina. Setting boundaries is a must with people who doesn't see our values and keep crushing unto them. In this way, we have peace within which they can never take away from us! I agree with you, people with insecurities often have the patterns of trying to dominate others!
Excellent quotes, Katharina. Particularly resonated with that Orwell section. "Obedience is not enough. Power is inflicting pain and humiliation."
You'll never win by making yourself smaller so that another becomes larger. They'll move to crush you. It's so for individuals and in the affairs of nations.
Avoid situations you need to fight, but if you cannot, then fight to win or die trying.
Patrick, thank you so much for commenting! I really admire how you find the time and I feel bad for currently only managing to post instead of to post and to engage with other writers. Your wisdom and your ability to put your excellent thoughts into words are really unmatched. Everytime I read a note from you, I’m just in awe! Long story short: I really appreciate you, thank you so much - and I agree with your comment 100%! 🤍
Welcome, Katharina, and thank you very much. About not being able to engage, I think we all understand. Sometimes we're just too busy with other things. It's okay. Those who understand won't ask, those who make a big deal of it aren't the right audience anyway. Besides, I see you try a lot, even when you don't have the time. So, no worries, don't feel bad about it.
Love this 🥰🥰🥰
Katharina, This is an exceptionally exceptional post! And you lay it out so well, too. I can't even decide which one I most like! Thank you so much for this article. It really resonated. I also just finished a book that in the final lines, the protagonist asks a police detective why the 'villain' would do something that did not quite compute--like a red herring. His response was, "Sometimes people just like to f*&% with you a little bit more. Some people, they never want to lose an opportunity to f*&$ with you, just for the sake of it." That explained a lot to me, basically some people just like to 'stir the pot' to get people going, and those people, believe me, I want to avoid. The ones who want to do it, just for the sake of it. GREAT Post!!!! Thank you!
Omg Jeanine! I hate those people the most as well… My brain just can’t really understand why someone would deliberately trigger others, like… why. One must feel really down inside to do this, but yes, I’ve encountered many people like this as well. I think in the end through their behavior they are just sabotaging themselves in the end. ☹️ Thank you so much for the addition and great explanation!
It’s sad that some people have that need to mess others. Probably power plays. But avoidance is good!
thank you for sharing these! I also recently accepted that people who keep pushing your boundaries are not respecting you and don't deserve a spot in your life.
This, Elizabeth!!! 100%!!! 🌸🤍
Love these! I feel like it’s especially important for people who struggle with people pleasing or fawning behavior. Some people don’t realize they let people overstep boundaries repeatedly ‘cause of trauma responses. If you notice it’s a pattern there’s definitely an opportunity for discovery there.
Your words really resonate with me, Ericka! Thank you so much! 🤍🤍 I was exactly this girl 10 years ago who tried to overcome trauma and I was so blind to people's disrespect - I just did not recognize it. Quotes like these helped to open my eyes, therefore I wanted to share so that others needing to overcome similar challenges can benefit just as I could a decade ago.
Thanks for posting, Katharina.
What you're saying is so important, especially for young women. We're so conditioned to blame ourselves instead of noticing red flags, and then distancing before there's anything to blame ourselves for.
Now that I'm older, my boundaries are much better, but young women often lack self-esteem and self-confidence, and that can really get us women into trouble.
Your comment really resonated with me on a deep level, dear Diana - I was exactly that young woman that you so well describe in your last sentence. Back then, I was craving for resources online to help me navigate life and to make sense of the disrespect I was so often experiencing. I really appreciate you and your comment - You hit the nail on its head! 👏
1984 has hundreds of covers, but this one is especially nice!
Lovely post Katharina. I haven’t read any of those books but they do seem like they have a lot to offer. Thank you for summarising the salient points and bringing them altogether.
I hope you’re enjoying a lovely relaxing break and feeling refreshed!
Katharina. Here in England we have a government locking up people for writing on social media, locking up people for speaking out against government policies. In America we have a woman who is going to destroy the country and the free world.
Is my writing toxic?
Will it destroy your boundaries?
Am I trying to disrespect you?
Katharina, I'm an old man in his seventies. I have but a short time left so I don't care if I upset a man or woman on Substack or in government. I care about the freedoms that I had that you've already lost. I care about my children and grandchildren and the hellhole they have coming.
You write well.
That writing can go two ways. It can be writing for pleasure, profit even. Or it can be writing to wake up the f+ING people around the world who are sleep walking into self imposed gulags.I do thank you for liking my comments Katharina because the way things are in England I may be writing my next piece from a cell
This is a fantastic article Katharina. So very well written. I have great great difficulty setting boundaries. I am a people pleaser with an anxious attachment. Red flags could be waving in my face and I’d say no they are pink flags. I have been working hard on myself and I found this article so helpful. Thank you for sharing x