Hi Katharina, I too like the corrupted software comparison. Especially in these tech-based times, think we can all relate to the occasional need to 'reboot the system' or wait for the new installment. Thanks for your post.
can totally relate to your article ~ i grew up in Foster Homes where i was physiologically, physically, and sexually abused ~ it took MANY years of work to get rid of the all BS my 'Mind' (and subconscious) were defaulting to). Great to hear you have/are making headway along 'The Road Less Traveled'. i have a group on MeWe (much better than FB) that you might be interested in ~
Thank you so much for sharing, TJ! I think you can be so proud of yourself, I know how hard it is to retrain the mind. I’m so sorry that you had to go through all this, the fact that you have overcome this speaks to your great inner strength and resilience!!
It all makes us who we are ~ well that is if you are mindful and aware and your 'Pineal Gland' isn't calcified ~ which i think is a bigger problem than we are aware of.....
I've recently learned there's something very addictive about people pleasing. It's a thought pattern and a habit that feels really, really good until it becomes desperate.
You are so spot on! I also believe it‘s so hard to get rid of this pattern because it is linked to survival in our head. We learn that this behavior has worked for us before so we continue to engage in it... but it also attracts a lot of unhealthy people.
I love the analogy of the "corrupted system" and the software that was installed during childhood. Your words resonated deeply within me. If we fail to see our inherit self-worth due to those environments where we were gaslighted as children (that's pretty much what happened), we become the adults that tend to be targeted by abusive personalities in our adulthood. It's never too late to reclaim the love we have for ourselves and go forward in the light of knowing and believing in what was inherit within us all along. Thank you :)
Thank you so much, Jim! Your comment made my day! It’s so hard to get rid of this wrong perception of ourselves as adults but there are good resources out there. It defintely took me YEARS to get there. There only needs to be this one mental "aha" moment, just one realization that really resonates but this can be the breakthrough forever. 🩵🩵
Katharina this is unbelievably helpful, thank you. I'm a huge people pleaser. Like, I'll straight up not enjoy entire evenings out with friends just to make sure they are having a good time. It's pretty bad, but then again, like you said in this article, it's not really my fault. It just comes from a place of "If they're not having a good time, then I must be uninteresting or not fun." It comes from that place for me. So I just overcompensate by trying to make it a great time for them at all costs. Anyway, thank you for the article. I'm subscribing.
I find the conceptualizing of behaviors as programs or scripts to be rather interesting. It makes things seem more tangible and, therefore, more approachable. (A small voice in the back of my mind is now mockingly reminding me that I am not a programmer, daring me to try and 'rewrite' my code.)
Great article! The work I've done around my people-pleasing tendencies has been life-changing. It's hard to explain, but I feel so free and so powerful now that I'm living in my truth, not for the validation of others, and I'm no longer prioritizing other people's needs over my own.
Thank you for writing this article 🙏🏼
More than welcome, I’m so happy if it can empower and uplift people. 💪 Thank you so much for reading! 🩵🩵
Hi Katharina, I too like the corrupted software comparison. Especially in these tech-based times, think we can all relate to the occasional need to 'reboot the system' or wait for the new installment. Thanks for your post.
can totally relate to your article ~ i grew up in Foster Homes where i was physiologically, physically, and sexually abused ~ it took MANY years of work to get rid of the all BS my 'Mind' (and subconscious) were defaulting to). Great to hear you have/are making headway along 'The Road Less Traveled'. i have a group on MeWe (much better than FB) that you might be interested in ~
https://mewe.com/group/5f0e7a40d7561844c52098f4
Thank you so much for sharing, TJ! I think you can be so proud of yourself, I know how hard it is to retrain the mind. I’m so sorry that you had to go through all this, the fact that you have overcome this speaks to your great inner strength and resilience!!
It all makes us who we are ~ well that is if you are mindful and aware and your 'Pineal Gland' isn't calcified ~ which i think is a bigger problem than we are aware of.....
Thanks! Readers of this post might also enjoy this podcast episode. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-you-feed/id792555885?i=1000645230467
Thank you for sharing, Dan! 🩵
I've recently learned there's something very addictive about people pleasing. It's a thought pattern and a habit that feels really, really good until it becomes desperate.
Very insightful piece Katharina.
You are so spot on! I also believe it‘s so hard to get rid of this pattern because it is linked to survival in our head. We learn that this behavior has worked for us before so we continue to engage in it... but it also attracts a lot of unhealthy people.
'As humans, we are all enough. Just by being born and by living we are enough.'
This is a really empowering message that all people, especially children, need to be made aware of and understand.
Thank you so much!!! And I fully agree ✅✅✅!
I love the analogy of the "corrupted system" and the software that was installed during childhood. Your words resonated deeply within me. If we fail to see our inherit self-worth due to those environments where we were gaslighted as children (that's pretty much what happened), we become the adults that tend to be targeted by abusive personalities in our adulthood. It's never too late to reclaim the love we have for ourselves and go forward in the light of knowing and believing in what was inherit within us all along. Thank you :)
Thank you so much, Jim! Your comment made my day! It’s so hard to get rid of this wrong perception of ourselves as adults but there are good resources out there. It defintely took me YEARS to get there. There only needs to be this one mental "aha" moment, just one realization that really resonates but this can be the breakthrough forever. 🩵🩵
Yes! It’s that one connection, that one breakthrough, that can break the pattern and move everything back toward the light and hope.
Katharina this is unbelievably helpful, thank you. I'm a huge people pleaser. Like, I'll straight up not enjoy entire evenings out with friends just to make sure they are having a good time. It's pretty bad, but then again, like you said in this article, it's not really my fault. It just comes from a place of "If they're not having a good time, then I must be uninteresting or not fun." It comes from that place for me. So I just overcompensate by trying to make it a great time for them at all costs. Anyway, thank you for the article. I'm subscribing.
Thomas, so so glad that you found it useful!!! 💙💙
I find the conceptualizing of behaviors as programs or scripts to be rather interesting. It makes things seem more tangible and, therefore, more approachable. (A small voice in the back of my mind is now mockingly reminding me that I am not a programmer, daring me to try and 'rewrite' my code.)
Fully agree!
Great article! The work I've done around my people-pleasing tendencies has been life-changing. It's hard to explain, but I feel so free and so powerful now that I'm living in my truth, not for the validation of others, and I'm no longer prioritizing other people's needs over my own.
😃💙😃 Thank you so much!!!
So true! 😞